Love  Your  Wives

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives,

even as Christ also loved the church,

and gave himself for it;

Her husband is known in the gates,

when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

Do you know where this verse is?  It’s in the middle of Proverbs 31, the proverbial instructions for a godly wife.  Hey man, if you aren’t diligent and faithful enough to be known in the gates and recognized as an elder of the land, you got no right to demand anything of your wife.

Besides, Proverbs 31 is more about you as the bride of Christ than it is about your wife.  If you deserve respect, you’ll get it.  If not, you won’t.

You are not to use the Bible to lord over your wife.  She has a heart and spirit of her own.  Just lead like a good shepherd and see what happens.

You didn’t marry her because you wanted her to sew and cook all day.  You married her because you loved her and wanted to spend time with her (serious golfers beware).  Sewing and cooking never really entered into the equation.

Keep on loving her and the sewing and cooking will take care of themselves.  You may have to personally sew and cook, especially if she works outside the home just like you do.

Give her a break.  You are the stronger vessel - actually be stronger and do more than your share of the work.  Just do it and be quiet.

Are you going to direct your strengths to someone other than your wife?  Don’t do it.

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