OK, here is my complete message on giving - just give as much money as you cheerfully can to your local, independent, doctrinally sound church with a stable missions program. Otherwise, just take care of your wife and children and others who actually need some help.
II Corinthians 9:7
Every man according as he purposeth in his heart,
so let him give;
not grudgingly, or of necessity:
for God loveth a cheerful giver.
Your finances are not subject to disclosure or scrutiny by anyone (including your pastor or deacon or church finance committee) except you and God (and the IRS and the FBI under certain conditions).
That’s it; God will handle it from there. Find a church where the preaching is about the word of the kingdom, not finances.
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